Beginning a new romantic relationship can add excitement to your life, the kind of thrill you get when you put your nose in the center of a freshly cut rose, taking in the wonderful aroma. Or perhaps opening up a beautifully wrapped package from someone special and getting the “gift” you’ve always wanted.
Overwhelming sensations go through your whole body. But we must remember not to get caught up in these feelings and forget that a successful relationship takes some work.
Here are some suggestions when embarking on a new romantic journey:
• Keep it fresh – Every date, every moment shared, and every activity you participate in with that special someone should revolve around a new and creative idea.
• Leave your baggage at the door – Your new romantic interest will sure to tire of constantly hearing all the details of your last disastrous relationship. Keep the conversation limited to the exciting “future” or the “fantastic” here and now.
• Dress to impress – Yes – We know pumps and ties on dates are passé – But, sweatpants and dirty sneakers are best left for all the “comfy” married couples.
• Forgive and Forget – Forgive him or her if they forget your first month’s anniversary or that you don’t like artificial sweetener in your coffee. Expect little, and sometimes you get more than you thought possible. Expect too much, and we only set ourselves up for disappointment. Forgive their trivial shortcomings and move on. Don’t forget – We are only human and therefore make mistakes.
• Some good things must come to an end – You can’t expect every new relationship to end in “wedded bliss.” If you truly believe that there is someone out there for you, give yourself a break and move on. If the relationship turns stale, in the end, it is sometimes in your best interest to head in another direction. Not all broken relationships can be mended; so don’t go “crazy” trying to fix every defect in a relationship.
Truly successful romantic relationships are possible. Getting there may be a long road – but once you are there, it can be one of the most rewarding experiences you can have.
